I find the easiest part of this time of year in the Jewish calendar to be the commandment to ask others for forgiveness. And that is actually not that easy, but it’s infinitely less hard than letting go of a grudge, especially when the person you are upset with has not apologized.
For my Yom Kippur post on Kveller this year I wrote a personal and (hopefully helpful) essay about my struggle to stay “on point” this High Holiday season by focusing on my own shortcomings instead of dwelling on the few relationships that went in the wrong direction. In other words, I’m trying to figure out how to let go of a few grudges. It’s difficult, soul-searching work. Truly, it is. This commandment to reflect, apologize, and make our wrongs right in Judaism doesn’t come around every year without good reason.
Please join me at Kveller with “Waiting For an Apology That Will Never Come.” Like all my Jewish-themed articles, I sincerely believe that the overall discussion is universal even if the specifics are . . . less so.