C-List Friends

Ask Nina a QuestionHave you ever worried that you consider someone a good friend, but the feeling isn’t mutual, at least not equally mutual?

This week’s friendship question comes from someone who fears she’s a C-list friend to one of her oldest friends. I gave her my two cents on what to do next, but I’m sure she’d love to hear from readers, too. Thanks for chiming in!

I’d love to hear your questions about friendship, difficult social situations, as well as online connections that could use some guidance. Ask me an anonymous question using this form.


My editors at The HerStories Project (Jessica Smock and Stephanie Sprenger) are starting another one of their popular 6-week online writing courses. Sign up today! The course starts March 30th.



Do Listen Read: Mid Februrary

Do listen read

You can see all previous “Do Listen Read” posts here.  DO – I’m planning to make this egg salad. – My sister-in-law, Jaci, made Bryan and me this dish called Pan Con Tomate. It was so fresh and delicious. – I pre-ordered Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives by Gretchen Rubin. The book…

How Not to Talk About Ex-Friendships

Ask Nina a Question

Today’s friendship question deals with the end of a friendship when the two parties have the same social circle. The woman who asked the question wanted to know: Do you tell the shared friends what happened? Even if you know your ex-friend is making her case, do you take the high road and keep quiet without…

Do Listen Read: Early February

Do listen read

DO -Check out the fashion blog “Fashion-Isha” because it focuses on modest clothing. It’s so refreshing to see a little less skin! LISTEN/WATCH -One of the best quotes from Sunday night’s Downton Abbey. (The Dowager Countess, of course.) “All this endless thinking. It’s very overrated. Before 1914 nobody thought about anything.” READ -The conversation about synagogue participation continues. JTA…

More Than Money


I’m having a very Jewey week, I know. Yesterday was all about the bar mitzvah problem. Today’s piece, however, was not one I planned to write. It’s an op-ed that I wrote for Kveller.com after reading an article in Monday’s New York Times about how some synagogues are eliminating mandatory dues with the hope of increasing…

No Easy Answers

nina's bat mitzvah

In last month’s column for tcjewfolk.com, I wrote about our family’s struggle to decide which educational path to take as our oldest child gets closer to bar mitzvah age. And yes, I acknowledged and continue to acknowledge that by struggle I mean “struggle.” The fact that we’re putting this much thought into our kids’ Jewish education…

Do Listen Read: Late January

Do listen read

DO – I made a good coconut chicken curry this week as well as a good thai curry soup. Both were really healthy recipes. – Speaking of healthy recipes, I want to make this granola from Goop, which means I had to order this puffed millet cereal from Amazon. (Could not find it in a store here.)…

The Review Review: Tips for Writers

The Review Review

Oy! It’s been a busy week around here. You know I rarely post two days in a row. So, after finishing my first stint as a judge for a short story contest (at Mash Stories), I felt that experiencing the other side of the submission process yielded several lessons I wanted to share with my writer…