Friendship and Alzheimer’s

A Beautiful Story About Alzheimer’s and Friendship

I read a beautiful story about friends who stood by their best friends suffering with Alzheimer’s. (“Friendship Unshaken by Alzheimer’s” by Claire Ansberry, Wall Street Journal.) It’s a well-known issue that loneliness plagues Alzheimer’s patients. I’ve read other pieces discussing how friends disappear before major symptoms have even started.

Ansberry focused her article on two pairs of friends—one set in their 70s and the other in their early 60s— where the opposite happened. In both cases the friends still spoke frequently or had regular outings. The details of these friendships were inspiring and heartwarming, but a quote from one of those husbands was chilling.

“Gil is grateful for Abbe and a few other friends who have remained close to Judy. She no longer seems to notice that people don’t come around or call, although he does: ‘People have disappointed me. I don’t think they can deal with people so smart and vibrant going away and becoming someone different.'”

I took this as a good reminder that caretakers often bear the brunt of these friendship losses just as hard or even harder than the person who is unwell. It must be heartbreaking to watch a loved one’s world slowly slip away, including their friendships.

I recommend the whole article for a taste of how one might approach these difficult moments in friendship in a different, kinder way.

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Nina Badzin hosts the podcast Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship. She's been writing about friendship since 2014, co-leads the writing groups at ModernWell in Minneapolis, and reviews 30+ books a year on her website.

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HI, I’M NINA BADZIN. I’m a writer fascinated by the dynamics of friendship, and I’ve been answering anonymous advice questions on the topic since 2014. I now also answer them on my podcast, Dear Nina! I’m a creative writing instructor at ModernWell in Minneapolis, a freelance writer and editor, and an avid reader who reviews 50 books a year. Welcome to my site! 

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