Quick Friendship Tip

Today’s “Quick Friendship Tip” is about how to capture the attitude and spirit of that special “freshman energy” apparent on any college campus in the first three weeks of school when making new friends as an adult.

There is something real happening in that freshman year, specifically the first three weeks, that is magical for friend making. I saw it while dropping off my son for his freshmen year of college in August, and I remember it from my own freshmen year.

I’m grateful to former guest, Gretchen Rubin, (who also recently dropped off a child for freshmen year) for sharing a 2015 NYT article in her newsletter by Nicholas A Christakis called “Making Friends in New Places.” Christakis described in more detail what exactly is happening in those first three weeks. I did not imagine it just a few months ago during the initial college move in days.

While adult life cannot replicate those three weeks in exactly the same way, I have some ideas about how we can take what’s essential about that vulnerable time and use it to our advantage as adults when we’re in periods of having to make new friends or just wanting to get out of a friend rut.