Advice Column

HerTake with Nina Badzin


“Nina takes questions any time on the general topic of “modern connections,” including friend breakups, betrayals, and dissolutions of all types, from online friendships and blogger relationships to writing group misunderstandings and ambiguous friendship signals or conflicts with your oldest, best friend.

Name and email are optional, and your identity will not be shared. However, Nina reserves the right to edit for length and clarity. You can also send an email to Send your anonymous question here.”

Long Distance Limbo and Friends Who Put You Down, September 2014

Reconnecting After a Friendship Break and Friends Who Disappoint During a Crisis, October 2014

Making Friends in a New City, November 2014

When You Detest Your Friend’s Spouse and Friends Who Over-ask For Help, December 2014

The More the Merrier vs. Quality Time, January 2015

Turning an Acquaintance Into a Friend, January 2015

Sharing Friends With an Ex-Friend, February 2015

Imbalance in a Friendship, February 2015

Bucking a Trend: Birthday Parties and More, March 2015

When a Friendship Gets Too Close Too Quickly, March 2015

Missing Friendships With the Opposite Sex, April 2015

When a Close Friend Does Not Support Your Passion, April 2015

When Your Friendships Feel Shallow, May 2015

Staying Friendly Without Committing to a Friendship, May 2015

When Friends and Family Make Racist Comments, June 2015

Only When Her Real Friends Are Busy, June 2015

Dropped From a Group of Friends, July 2015

On Being Asked for Professional Favors, August 2015

Struggling With Envy, September 2015

Unfriending on Facebook, October 2015

When to Stop Saving a Friendship, November 2015

I Like You, But Not Enough For a Long Distance Visit, December 2015

Dropped By Another Couple January 2016

When You Think Your Friend’s Engagement is a Mistake February 2016

Ex-Friends Reconnecting After a Loss in the Family March 2016

When a Group of Friends Falls Apart April 2016

I Can’t Figure Out if She Wants to be Friends May 2016

A Friend Who Gives Too Many Gifts June 2016

Friendship with a Difficult Sister-in-Law July 2016

The Social Media Cold Shoulder September 2016

No, Friendship Shouldn’t Be This Hard October 2016

Hearing Gossip a Friend Said About You November 2016

Platonic Friendships and Jealous Spouses December 2016

Working With The Friend Who Dumped You January 2017

Friends Connectors vs. Friend Hoarders February 2017

Friends Who Cancel Plans Too Often March 2017

Can The Adults’ Friendship Survive After The Children’s Friendship Ends April 2017

Trying (Too Hard) to Reach BFF Status May 2017

A Botched Weekend Away With Friends June 2017

A Friend Who Will Only Communicate Via Text July 2017