This week’s question at The HerStories Project comes from a woman who feels that Ask Nina a Questiondespite having many acquaintances and social activities, she has no close friendships. She describes her friendships as shallow (the relationships, not the people).

I tried to help with some practical advice, but I also felt that her question highlighted some major assumptions she was making about people and about friendship in general. I’m hoping the angle I took in my answer to combat those assumptions will help as well.

Come and see if you can add some assistance, too. I love that this column has turned into a group discussion that helps the person asking the questions and all of us who like to take care of our relationships.


You can ask an anonymous friendship question here.
I keep a list of all the questions I’ve already answered here.
The radio podcasts are here.

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Nina Badzin is a freelance writer, a lead writing instructor at ModernWell in Minneapolis as well as ModernWell's book club director. She reviews 50 books a year on her blog, writes reviews for other sites, and has a friendship advice column at The HerStories Project. She lives in Minneapolis with her husband and four children.

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