The friendship advice column questions (below) are different from podcast episodes, which are here.
2024
Make the First Friendship Move
Branching Out of a Friend Group
You Cannot Win One Every Potential Friend
Should I Revive This 15-Year Friendship?
Embrace Your Older (or Younger) Friends
The Lonely Half of the Best Friendship
I Regret Investing So Much Into These Friends
My Friend Comments on My Eating Habits to Me and to Others
Roommate Disappointments and Taking Our Closest Friends for Granted
The Friends Who Rejected Us: Thank You
2023
My Kid Ended a Friendship With Your Kid: Don’t Blame Me
Abrupt Silence After Vacationing Together: Obsessing About the End of a Friendship and Accepting Rejection
A Script For Making Plans With New Friends
You’ve Outgrown This Friendship (For Now)
Friends, You Don’t Have to Read My Book. (But You Should Ask Me How It’s Going Sometimes)
Excluded Because I’m Sober: Should I Say Something to My Friend?
2022
(I moved the column to Substack in 2022)
You Should Be Friends With People You LIKE.
I Was Not Included in My Friend’s Birthday Dinner
The Friend Who Ignores Your Social Media Posts: A Listener Disagrees With My Take
2021
Real Estate Agent Commissions and Friendship
This Bride Wants Toasts, Not Roasts At Her Wedding
Am I a Friend or a Customer?
The Value of Older And Younger Friends
The Friend Who Is Always “Just Kidding”
Keeping Secrets for Friends
The Passive Aggressive Friend
2020
My Good Friend’s Kid is Excluding My Kid
When a Friend Asks For Too Big of a Favor
My Friends Can be Mean Sometimes, But I Don’t Want to Start Over
Finding a New Friend Group
How to Become Closer Friends (with 2 examples from my life)
Is This Pandemic the Time To Decide Who My Real Friends Are?
My Friendships Are Better With Social Distancing
Is It Too Late to Pursue This Friend Crush?
On Not Picking Fights With Friends
Trying With a Friend vs. Chasing a Friend
2019
Why Do These Women Make Me Feel Like I’m in 7th Grade?
I want to reconnect with my childhood friend, but not the whole friend group
Helping a Friend When There’s a Health Crisis in the Family
Always Someone’s Close Friend But Never the Best Friend
Feeling Lost, Lonely, Jealous, and Left Out
Why It’s a Good Idea to Call Your Friends
Why Is It So Hard To Find My People?
My Friend is Making a Mistake With Social Media Posts
In Over My Head With Friend’s Problems and Lack of Boundaries
My Friend Doesn’t Take My Child’s Food Allergies Seriously (And Our Kids Play)
Will Friends Read My Book? (My answer: Most friends and family will not read your book.)
Should I Ghost This Friend or Have the Hard Conversation?
What Does it Mean If My Friend Never Texts First?
I Want to Pull Away But My Friend Knows Too Much About Me
My Friend Hates My Social Media Posts (And is Mean About It)
Can a Friendship Expire?
My Friend Won’t Stop Looking at Her iPhone
2018
Birthday Gift Drama in a Friend Group
A Friend Who Wants to Stay Out of the Middle
Left Out By The Friends I Introduced to Each Other
Ending a Toxic Friendship
Talking About Money With Friends
Letting Others Into Your Friend Group
I Moved to My Spouse’s Hometown But I Don’t Like His Friends
Firing a Friend You Probably Shouldn’t Have Hired
2017
A Friend Who Will Only Text
Travel Plans With Friends Gone Wrong
You Have to Stop Forcing This Friendship
Can the Adults’ Friendship Survive After the Kids Stop Being Friends?
Friends Who Cancel Plans Too Often
Friend Connectors and Friend Hoarders
Friendship Breakups At Work
2016
How Much Say Should Your Partner Get In Your Friendships?
Hearing Your Friends Gossip About You
Is This Friendship Too Much Work?
My Friend Ignores Me on Social Media
Calling vs. Texting Friends (article on Medium)
Can You Be Friends With Your Sister-in-law?
My Friend Gives Me Too Many Gifts
I Can’t Tell If She Wants to Be Better Friends
Leaving a Group of Friends
Reaching Out to an Ex-friend After a Loss in the Family
Telling a Friend Not to Get Married
Dumped By Another Couple
2015
I Have No Interest in a Weekend Visit From My Friend
When to Stop Saving a Friendship
Unfriending on Facebook (or Hiding, Blocking, etc.)
The Danger of Envy in Friendships
Friends Who Expects You to Work For Free
Dropped By a Group of Friends
Tired of Being Picked Last When Her Real Friends Are Busy
Friendly Without Committing to a Friendship
I Have No Deep Friendships
My Friends Do Not Support My Work
Missing Opposite-Sex Friendships
Regretting a Friendship That Got Too Close Too Fast
Do I Have Invite the Whole Class To My Kid’s Birthday Party?
One-Sided Friendships
Ex-Friends in The Same Friend Group
How To Become Better Friends With An Acquaintance
Making Plans That Leave Out Some Friends
2014
My Friend Only Reaches Out When She Needs Something
I Can’t Stand My Friend’s Spouse
Making Friends When You Move to a New City
A Friend Who Didn’t Help in a Crisis
Reconnecting With an Ex-friend
A Friends Who Puts You Down
I Can’t Tell If My Long Distance Friend Wants to Stay In Touch
Some of my essays on friendship from 2011 – present
I Get By With a Little Help For Your Friends (Moment Magazine)
Honey Cake, Old Friends, and Defending Facebook (TCJewfolk)
Big Friendship: Book Review (Herstories)
Why I Love My MahJongg Group (TCJewfolk)
The Importance of Couple Friends (Brain, Child Magazine)
Lessons From New Friends (Brain, Child Magazine)
Waiting For An Apology That Will Never Come (Kveller)
The Code Between Childhood Friends (Scary Mommy)
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