All Episode of Dear Nina (By Subtopic)

Here is an easy reference to all episodes of Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship organized by subtopic.

PLEASE NOTE: Many episodes could have fit in several categories, but I picked one (in most cases).

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How Friends Communicate (or not!)

#1. The Friend Who Will Only Text: Kathy Sackheim (my mom!)

#3. The Friend Who Never Initiates Contact: Pam Moore

#4. Revealing Too Much Too Soon: Christie Tate

#8. When Friends Ask Questions You Don’t Want to Answer: Kathy Sackheim (my mom!)

Mini-Episode: A Positive View of Friends Asking Personal Questions

#24. Maintaining Boundaries Without Damaging Your Friendships: Bryan Badzin

#25. Improving Group Texts: Kat Vellos

#95. Overtalking, Undertalking, and Lessons for Friendships in the Art of Storytelling: Micaela Blei

#111. The Friend Who Never Asks About You (Letter spotlight)

#168: From Surface to Substance: A Journalist’s Guide to Deeper Friendships: Jonah Kaplan


 

 

 

Ending Friendships or Changing the Friendship

#7. Forgiveness and Reconciliation After a Friendship Breakup: Rebecca Kotok

#29. Outgrowing a Friendship and Friends Who Do Not Root For You: Chaz Sandifer

#33. When the Desire for Friendship is Not Equal: Ruchi Koval

#47. Friendship Triangles, Envy, Competition and Ghosting: Christie Tate

#51. Recognizing a Toxic Friendship: Michelle Anderson and Lauren Massarella (of The Sister Project)

#71: Learning From Friendship Breakups: Diamonde Williamson

#109. Quiet Quitting a Friendship: Dr. Miriam Kirmayer

#143: The Law of Rejection in Friendships: Harlan Cohen

#180: Mean Mom Culture, Relational Aggression, and Belonging vs. Inclusion (with Dr. Noelle Santorelli)


 

Conflict and/or Forgiveness in Friendships

Mini-Episode: The Friendship Apology Creed

Mini-Episode: Friends Make Mistakes

#31. Friends Who are Different from You: Stephanie Pierce and Julie Burton

#32. Conflict Can Strengthen a Friendship: Dr. Marisa Franco

#34. Reconnecting with an Ex-Friend: Rebecca Kotok

#35. Managing a Lopsided Friendship and Assuming the Best: Anna Goldfarb

#48. Friendship Despite Disagreements: Yael Bar Tur and Chaya Leah Sufrin

#49. Unexpected Friendships: Will Schwalbe

#50. How Friendships Change With Age, Overlooking Foibles, Dealing With Our Teens’ Friendships, and more:  Kathy Sackheim (my mom!)

#72. Grudges and Apologies in Friendships: Kathy Sackheim (my mom!)

#88. Differences of Opinion With Friends and the Potential of Friendship With Cousins: Emily Locker

#92. The Courage to Trust Friends After You’ve Been Hurt

#93. Small Friendship Slights 

#94. Five Friendship Issues to Consider Addressing With a Therapist: Dr. Roxanne Francis

#102. Friendships Can Survive Hurt Feelings and Conflict: Shasta Nelson

#119. Reviving Friendships that Drifted Apart (even decades later): Kay Paschal

#154: Discretion vs. Gossip: How to Handle a Friend Who Overshares Your News (Letter Spotlight) Rebekah Jacobs

#165: The Child-Free Friend: Honest Talk About Friendship and Different Life Paths: Dani Alpert

#166: Friendship Repair: How to Say I’m Sorry, Accept Apologies, and Ask for One: Marjorie Ingall

#186: The Friend Who Copies You — Flattering or Frustrating?: Candace Ourisman


 

Excluding and Including (all the issues that come up around this tricky topic)

#9. Friends Will Hang Out Without You: Taryn Kessel

#16. Stop Focusing on the Popular Group

#73. I’m Just Not That Into This Friendship: Ruchi Koval

#85. The More the Merrier? That’s Not Always True: Danielle Bayard Jackson

#91: Why Big Friend Groups Often Fail and Helping Kids Manage Conflict with Close Friends: Dr. Lisa Damour

#106. Healing After Being Dropped from a Group of Friends: Meghan Judge

#159: Teaching Kindness Without Forcing Friendships: A Parenting Dilemma: Jessica Speer

#160: From the Cafeteria to the Mahj Table: Friend Group Challenges from Teens to Midlife and Beyond (LIVE!): Rebekah Jacobs

#181: Exclusion and the Power to Build New Friendships: Amy Weatherly


 

Grief, Loss, Illness, Supporting Friends in a Hard Time + SHOWING UP

#12. Helping a Friend in Crisis and Asking Friends for Help: Alissa Butterfass

#21. Friends Who Are Like Family and the Ways Friends Show Up: Rachel Levy Lesser

#28. Grieving the Death of a Friend: Zibby Owens

#36. Widowhood and Friendship: Kathy Sackheim (my mom!)

#55. How to Support a Friend Facing an Ambiguous Loss: Emma Nadler

#68. When Your Friend is in an Unhealthy or Abusive Relationship: Rachel Katz

#69. Don’t Be Afraid of Saying the Wrong Thing to Friends With a Chronic Illness: Jennifer Cramer-Miller

#80. Neediness in Friendships: Sally Vardaman

#82. The Lasting Ties of Friendships Formed in Difficult Times: Jenny Leon

#90: The Friends You Want Around During a Crisis: Kelly Lang

#104. Being a Good Friend to Someone With Terminal Cancer: Jill Smokler

#128: Your Friends Won’t Always Say the Right Thing When You’re Struggling, Forgive Them: Steve Phillips

#129: Do you know how your friends like to be comforted in hard times?

#157: When a Community Shows Up: Childhood Cancer, Friendship, and Lifelong Ripple Effects: Amy Blumenfeld

#176: Divorce and the Impact on Your Friendships: Hope Lutz Firsel

#182: Three Phrases That Help When a Friend Is Experiencing Loss: Shelby Forsythia


Making New Friends in a New City or New Stage of Life (or JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO!)

#13. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone to Make New Friends: Michelle Platt

#14. Plan Ongoing Activities to Make Deeper Connections with Friends: Jessica Smock

#15. The Art of Small Talk and Body Language When Making New Friends:  Ali Wenzke

#20. Friendship Chemistry

#22. Host Friends (and Potential Friends) for Meals with Less Stress: Debra Arbit

#26. Making New Friends After 50:  the hosts of The Pop Culture Preservation Society

#37. The Benefits of Couple Friends: Bryan Badzin

#39. Trying One New Thing Every Day to Make New Friends: Pam Lamp

#52. Choosing a New Expat Life After a Tragedy: Jen Zwinck

#53. It’s Never Too Late To Make New, Close Friends: Megan Tamte (founder of Evereve)

#58. Poker, Mahjong, and Becoming Closer Friends Through a Game: Mark Oppenheimer

#70: Become Your Own Social Director: Don’t Wait for Invitations

#78. Pursuing a New Friend and Texting Etiquette: Rachel Levy Lesser and Stephanie Goldstein

#79. Moving Every Three Years and Creating Community: Bri McKoy

#83. The Sisterhood of the Fellow Exes: Lara Starr

#84. How to Turn an Acquaintance Into a Friend: Debra Arbit

#103. Friendship Meet Cutes and Your Fashion Emergency Friends: Rachel Levy Lesser

#115. The Freshmen Energy Trick for Making New Friends as an Adult

#117. Hobbies and Friendship: Preparing for the Empty Nest and Retirement: Dara Collins and Donna Kassman

#118. Navigating Post-30s Friendship Struggles Through Social Prescribing: Julia Hotz

#134: The Potential for Friendship in Fan Communities: SC Perot

#143: The Law of Rejection in Friendships: Harlan Cohen

#155: Thriving Solo–Making Friends and Creating Community After a Big Move: Lisa Giordano

#164: Making Mom Friends: Challenges & Opportunities: Alex Reed

#184: Socially Connected, Emotionally Unsettled: The Friendship Paradox in Your 20s: Dr. Jeffrey Hall


 

The Nuanced Art of Maintaining Friendships (Almost all episodes would fit here too!)

#30. Loneliness and Worry Despite Having Close Friends: Mary Laura Philpott

#38. Knowing Your Friendship Preferences and Limitations: Diana Spechler

#40. Giving Thoughtful Gifts to Friends

#41. Work Friend, Real Friend, or Customer?: Lisa Harris

#42. Which Friendships Do You Enjoy and Why?

#43. Navigating Money and Friendship: Mia Brabam

#44. Diet Culture and Friendship:Pam Moore

#46. The Power of Casual Friendships: Shari Leid

#54. Text Your Friends Back and Other Tips on Maintaining Friendships: Laura Tremaine

#57. Listen for What’s Not Being Said and Other Friendship Solutions From the Five Senses: Gretchen Rubin

#61. The Case for Phone Calls and Low-key Hangs with Friends: Jo Piazza

#62. The Friendship of the Weekly Walking Partners: Leslie Hooton

#63. Telling Friends They’ve Let You Down: Dr. Marisa Franco

#66. Introvert Energy in Friendships: Heidi Shertok

#67. Visit Your Long Distance Friends

#75. Scheduling, Structure, and Traditions as the Key to Making and Keeping Friends: Jeff Waldman and Dan Moore

#86. Every Friendship Starts (or deepens) With an Act of Bravery: Amy Weathery + Jess Johnston (of Sister I am With You)

#87: Beyond The Golden Girls: Platonic Life Partners at Any Age: Rhaina Cohen

#89. Negative Friendship Patterns & Breaking an Unhealthy Cycle: Christie Tate

#97. Disclosing My Invisible Disability Increased the Intimacy In My Friendships: Estelle Erasmus

#98. 5 Questions to Evaluate Your Friendships at the End of the School Year (or any time!)

#99. The 14-Day Friendship Mindset Cleanse: Anna Goldfarb

#105. Quick Friendship Tip: You Need (Some) Time With Your Long Distance Friends

#107. Friendships between sisters-in-law plus roommates, cousins, and neighbors (Letter Spotlight)

#110. Neurodiversity and Friendships: Dr. James Richardson

#114. The Enneagram and Friendships: Christina Wilcox

#116. Lose Track of who Makes the Plans and 7 Other Friendship Tips from Dr. Ruth: Allison Gilbert

#120. 6 Ways to be More Generous in Your Friendships: Emma Nadler

#121. Rules For Making Plans With Friends: (Letter Spotlight)

#125: The 10% Rule in Friendships and the Negativity Bias : Ann Imig

#132: The Power of the 4 Types of Connection: Dr. Adam Dorsay

#133: Talking to Friends About Your Sex Life: Dr. Arielle Buch-Frohlich

#136: Your Three to Five Closest Friends: (Letter Spotlight) Rebekah Jacobs

#145: Rules for Supporting Your Single Friends: Meghan Keane

#146: Tolerate Uncertainty & Stop the Overthinking Spiral in Your Friendships: Dr. Jackie Henry

#147: Share Good News With Friends + How to Receive Your Friends’ Good News

#148: Tricky Friendship Etiquette for the Modern Age: Daniel Post Senning

#151: Myths Around Adult Friendships: Jazzmyn Proctor

#163: Shame and Friendship: What We Hide, What We Share: Melissa Petro

#169: Hosting a Salon: The Friendship Upgrade from Book Clubs: Linda-Marie Barrett

#170: The Friend Who Really Sees You: Hannah Rosenberg

#173: What Makes a Friendship Last: Lessons from 40 Years: Sunny & Jenn

#174: The Neuroscience of Feeling Seen, Ignored, or Left Out in Friendships: Dr. Ben Rein

#183: Are You Mad at Me? Friendship Anxiety and the Need for Validation: Meg Josephson

#185: When Career Success Strains Your Friendships: Dr. Kimberly Horn


 

Social Media Issues + Digital Life Realities

#5. The Friend Who Ignores Your Social Media Posts: Rudri Patel

#6. Unfriend, Mute, Unfollow, or Block

#56. Revisiting the Problems and Potential of Group Texts: Kat Vellos

#64. Old School Blogging Friendships: Jill Smokler

#142: Friends, Phones, and the Problem of Distraction: Katherine Martinko

#161: How Much Can You Expect Friends to Support Your Business, Book, or New Endeavor?: Jackie Friedland


 

Sobriety and Friendship Challenges and Opportunities

#17. Friendship and Sobriety: Jen (Gilhoi) Veralle

#130: The Sober Curious Lifestyle and Your Friendships: Hallie Sawyer


 

Parents Dealing With Kids’ Friendships (and their own adult friendships when kids are having issues)

#2. When Your Friend’s Kid is Being Mean to Your Kid:  Taryn Kessel

#10. My Kid Isn’t Interested in Pursuing This Friendship: Jessica Speer

#23. When Kids’ Issues are Too Private to Discuss with Friends: Rebecca Prenevost

#59. Difficult Teen Friendships and Levels of Parent Involvement: Stephanie Sprenger

#65. Teen Friends Groups and Teen Friendship Strife: Dr. Lisa Damour

#152: When Your Child’s Friendship Issues Reopens Unresolved Wounds: Beth Segaloff


 

College Friendships

#60. College Friends: The Magic of the 90s and the Potential of Current Campus Friendships: Daisy Alpert Florin

#112. Navigating Friendship During the College Admissions Process: Kate Proger

#177: The Myth of Instant College Friends: Dr. Janice McCabe


 

Male Friendships

#11. Lessons From Male Friendships: Dave Dluger

#37. The Benefits of Couple Friends: Bryan Badzin

#49. Unexpected Friendships: Will Schwalbe

#58. Poker, Mahjong, and Becoming Closer Friends Through a Game: Mark Oppenheimer

#75. Scheduling, Structure, and Traditions as the Key to Making and Keeping Friends: Jeff Waldman and Dan Moore

#77. Laughter From Loneliness: Gabe Mollica

#123: Male-Female Friendships and Liking Friends’ Social Media Posts: Matt Ritter and Aaron Karo

#128: Your Friends Won’t Always Say the Right Thing When You’re Struggling, Forgive Them: Steve Phillips

#168: From Surface to Substance: A Journalist’s Guide to Deeper Friendships: Jonah Kaplan


 

Lessons From Our Own Childhoods

#45. Learning From Our Parents’ Friendships: Linda Pressman

#74. The Childhood Friends Who Shaped Our Identities: Kristin Nilsen

#96. Mixtapes, Mahjong, and Other Sensory Friendship Experiences: Gretchen Rubin

#100. The Magic of Camp Friends: Dara Levan


 

Community VS. Friendship

#138: The Neighborhood Village and How Community is Different From Friendship: Seth D. Kaplan

#150: Join or Die: Pickleball, Potlucks, Democracy, and Your Health: Rebecca Davis and Pete Davis


 

Friendships in Pop Culture

#19. Novels and Memoirs About Friendship: Rebekah Jacobs

#141: Lessons from the White Lotus Friendship Trio: Rebekah Jacobs

#172: What “Beaches” Gets Right About Friendship: Professors Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel (of The Love Factually Podcast)


 

Too Many Topics to Slot into One Place

#18. Four Friendship Dilemmas in 30 Minutes: Taryn Kessel

#27. Covid Issues with Friends, Teen Groups, and Friends Who Leave: Taryn Kessel

#101. Ask Me Anything! (Best Friends, Friendship Trios, Being More Direct with Friends and much more)

#124: Friendship Who Criticize You and Two Other Dilemmas (Letter Spotlight)

#156: Four Years In: The 4 Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned About Friendship (and 4 about podcasting too)

#178: Top 5 Cities, Top 5 Episodes, and Friendship Takeaways from 2025 (Rebekah Jacobs)

#179: Your Newest Friendship Questions, Answered (With My Mom)


 

 

 

The 12 Friendship Challenges!

#127: See a Friend in Person This Month (January)

#131: Start a Ritual/Tradition with Friends: Rachel Steinman and Rachel Winter (February)

#135: The Hyperlocal Friendship Challenge (March)

#140: Celebrating Friends’ Birthdays and Your Own Birthday (April)

#144: The Secret Power of Changing the Venue in Your Friendship (May)

#149: Ask a Friend For a Favor (June)

#153: Three Questions to Reflect on Your Friendships: (July)

#158: You Need an Older or Younger Friend: Liz Alterman (August)

#162: Listen to Your “Bestie Brain,” Not Your “Bully Brain”: Leslie Randolph (September)

#167: Ask Your Friends More Questions (October)

#171: Brighten a Friend’s Day with One Simple Gesture (November)

#175: Write a Letter to One Friend: (December)

 

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HI, I’M NINA BADZIN. I’m a writer fascinated by the dynamics of friendship, and I’ve been answering anonymous advice questions on the topic since 2014. I now also answer them on my podcast, Dear Nina! I’m a creative writing instructor at ModernWell in Minneapolis, a freelance writer and editor, and an avid reader who reviews 50 books a year. Welcome to my site! 

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